Dealing With Disappointment.

My reason for writing this post is because we have all been there. We have all been disappointed, let down, hurt and you're left feeling frustrated, upset and a variety of mixed emotions, which quite frankly make us feel down in the dumps. Personally, I find it so easy to feel let down and upset by something which is pretty much out of my control. Yes, "I may have wanted to do that, but for this reason I can't" - so I just have to deal with it. I am of course no expert, this is purely just a little lifestyle post but I just wanted to try and share a few things that help me when I am feeling disappointed.

We have all had our fair share of disappointments - it's part of life. It took me three times and many hours of revising to pass my driving theory test. Then, it took me four practical tests until I finally passed. Each time that I failed I was so upset and frustrated at myself for not doing better - but I really did try my best. I was so close to giving up, I thought I was never going to pass but I'm so grateful I carried on!

Don't beat yourself up.
The most important thing to do is to not blame yourself. It isn't your fault that you didn't get the grade you wanted, the university course or job you wanted. The point is that you tried your best. It's so easy for others to judge you and brag about what they have and you could be left doubting your own ability (which you don't need to by the way). It's so easy to start doubting yourself - What did I do wrong? What have they got that I haven't? The chances are you haven't done anything wrong - it just didn't work out this time. If a situation has left you feeling down, cheer yourself up. Do what you love doing - it doesn't matter what it is. Be selfish for once and focus on you. All that matters to me, is that I try my hardest. If I genuinely feel that I couldn't have done more - then that's it. It's time to accept that and move on.
Everything happens for a reason
This has got to be my all time favourite saying. Everything happens for a reason - you just don't know it yet. Keep telling yourself that and eventually you will work out the reason why it happened. Who knows, maybe you didn't get onto the university course you wanted because you may not have enjoyed it anyway? When you get rejected, there is always something around the corner - you just have to be patient.

Keep Trying.
No matter what your dream is - go for it. It doesn't matter how far away it may seem, everyone has to start somewhere. A quote I read recently was to 'Lower your expectations and you will avoid disappointment'. I cant help but disagree with this one - why should we lower our expectations of ourselves? Surely, that would leave us feeling worse than when we started. Always keep a positive frame of mind and believe that you will get there one day.

Talk about why you're disappointed. Let it out to someone you trust and you should find yourself feeling a lot more relieved and ready to put it behind you and move on. It's so easy to let problems build up in your head and if nobody knows about it, nobody can help you. As the old saying goes - A problem shared is a problem halved.
What's next?
Focus on what you want next. Try and move on from your recent let down - easier said than done I know - and put it behind you. So, it didn't work out this time, so make a list of what you're going to do now. What do you want next? Is there anything you think you need to do? Follow your heart and do what you feel will benefit you. If you feel it will benefit you by taking a break from it all and doing something completely different - then do it. You may find yourself feeling more refreshed. Be honest with yourself and chase what you really want and deserve.
Everything happens for a reason, you've just got to find out why.
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  1. Brilliant post hun, everyone is disappointed at one time or another and it helps to know how to deal with it... I was disappointed that I didn't get into uni this year but I'm going to college now, then reapplying next year :) It's true that everything happens for a reason, I applied for courses I don't think I would have enjoyed at uni, but think doing this college course will help me decide what I really want to do :)

  2. What a great post. My ma always said to me in school and college 'all you can do is your best' so between this and my personal motto that 'everything happens for a reason' - keeping the chin up seems so much easier!xx

  3. Lovely post, I tend to keep trying or move on xx

    Beautyqueenuk xx

  4. What a great post dear. You are an inspiration.
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  5. Such a nice post! Staying positive is key x

  6. I really like this post, writing posts like these always helps keep my head in a good place! :)
    Really great post!