Who says you have to 'fit in'?

Today's post is back to lifestyle basics. I wanted to write a little post based along the lines of 'fitting in'. You know when you feel like you 'just don't fit in?' sometimes? (Surely it can't just be me!). I don't feel like it that often, but now and again if I am in a new crowd of people I don't know very well or even at all, then I will clam up and feel like I don't fit in and feel uncomfortable. I thought that I would make some small pointers of things where I feel happy not fitting in with what is said to be 'the norm' of social situations. Now, let me explain the Honey Boo Boo gifs and images - I love that family so much. Nothing cheers me up more than watching their episodes and I feel they are a classic example of not fitting into society - and all that matters is you can see how happy they are.

Alcohol - oh that dreaded word - it is a bit like marmite isn't it? You either love it or hate it. I wouldn't go as far as to say I hate it, but I certainly don't like it. I may sound like an old grump now, and I'm not saying I won't have a drink when I have a night out, but if I'm just going for a meal or a family party, I feel no need to drink whatsoever. This is where people can come in and say 'Why aren't you drinking?' and if you don't want to drink then don't let anybody tell you that you have to - you don't, it's your choice. Personally, give me a night in with a takeaway over a night out any day.
 Career. When I first left school, I had no idea what I wanted to do. Everybody else had firm dreams of becoming a teacher, a psychologist or what not and I didn't have the foggiest - but I turned out just fine. If you want to leave school and go straight to work, do it. If you want to study for years, then do it. Always do what you think is best for you, take others advice but never set yourself up to fail by doing something purely because you think that's what society wants. You don't necessarily need to go to university to be successful (I didn't) and if it's not what you want, follow your dreams and take a different path.
Looks/Diet. Never let anyone tell you that you need to be a specific size or shape. I know it is important to be healthy and I have been exercising more lately - but that's not for anybody else. It's for me to feel better about myself and prove that I can improve my fitness (I hated PE in school with a burning passion). You know those days when you really don't want to bother covering up in makeup and spending ages straightening your hair - then don't! Don't feel you have to look perfect at all times - it's not realistic!
In a nutshell, what I am trying to say is I have learned to accept who I am and I am happy with that. I don't ever pretend to be somebody that I'm not (I couldn't keep it up anyway), I like my own company and I wouldn't change anything about my life.
Do you ever feel pressured to fit in? x

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  1. This is such a great post. I hated PE in school, I used to have it at the end of the day so my thoughts were always "I just want to go home" haha

    I'm not the slimmest person in the world but I know I'm healthy, every time I go to the doctors I have a check up. So as long as my weight isn't affecting my health, I don't particularly see a reason for me to lose weight. I would rather learn to love my body the way it is first.

    While I was in school, I felt pressured to change who I was to fit in & sometimes if I'm in a group of people who I don't really know, I worry that they won't like me :/

    Ash xx

  2. This is a lovely post, I don't think I ever realised until I left school that in the real world there's not so much pressure to fit in, and then I felt really silly I had spent all the time up until I was eighteen worrying myself sick about every little thing that I did.

    I love Honey Boo Boo, and I think it's really lovely to see them as a family who are happy and confident in who they are, however unconventional!

    S xo.


  3. This is such a brilliant post, it's so true. I have always struggled to 'fit in' with the norm. Thank you for sharing!

    Lauren x


  4. this is soo great! Especially the alcohol bit! I've never been drunk or anything and people are always sooo surprised when I tell them that.
    Lauren | OhHay Blogs!

  5. Great post, I love the message you are sending out. I don't feel the need to fit in, at all, but then I never have done. I guess with somethings I do want to, but I will only ever do things for myself and not to please anyone else. I hate that some people feel pressured to fit in or do and be the norm, even more so if they don't want to be. I say do what you want to do, and be whoever you want to be :) xx Hayley-Eszti


  6. I loved this post, so encouraging and inspiring.