Learning To Love Yourself.

Hey you. Yes you, you're gorgeous. Don't let anyone tell you any different and most certainly don't tell yourself that you're not beautiful. Day by day thousands of us girls (and boys!) all around the world will look in the mirror today and complain about the way we look - I too am guilty of this habit. You may be aware of the programme 'My Mad Fat Diary' on E4 which I absolutely love. In the last episode of the latest series, Rae is having a counselling session which made my ears prick up. (PS - Did anyone hope that Kester was actually going to be Rae's Father or was that just me?!). Rae's counsellor was spot on whne he told her that she wouldn't look at herself as a child and continue to insult her looks. This is something that I often have to say to myself when I am feeling insecure. Have you ever accepted a compliment and thought 'They're just saying that to be polite' - No, of course they aren't, why would they say it otherwise? Something that I often tell myself is that I would never put anyone else down about the way they look - so why do I allow myself to do it to me?  You would never go up to a friend and say 'Oh gosh, your hair looks awful today' or 'Your makeup looks terrible' so why oh why, do we let ourselves do this to ourselves? What I am trying to say is that I will look at you and see all good things, you may look at me and see all good things - but we certainly wont see the bad in each other.
Let's just say you go to college or work today. If you're anything like me, you will look at other girls and admire their hair, make up, outfits or even their lives in general. There's  a pretty good chance they may glance back at you and think exactly the same thing - have you ever thought about it in that way?  A story that my mum told me a few years ago has always stuck in my mind. My mum remembers being really jealous of a girl when she was in comprehensive school - she had the perfect look with lots of friends and my mum remembers wishing she was that girl. A few months later, the poor girl passed away as she had been suffering from Cancer, which she had kept a secret from pupils at the school. To this day, my mum always feels guilty for being jealous of her. The moral of the story seems to be to never wish you were someone else. The way someone looks does not justify that their life is ten times better than you - I see gorgeous bloggers and think 'I wish I was her' but realistically, no I don't. I don't know what their life is really like or what they may be going through. I also know that I am happy with my life and what I have got - if I was somebody else then I wouldn't have that.

Before I sign off, I have a little challenge for you. Hopefully you enjoyed this post and it made you think - if you're up for it, I challenge you to leave me a comment in this post, telling me three things that you love about yourself! x

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  1. I quite like my lips
    I like how long my legs are
    And I appreciate not inheriting the family trait of big ears
    haha quite weird to write down :)
    The Whimsy Sea

  2. All very true!!
    Tough challenge... lots of people don't like to talk good about themselves.. but it shouldn't be that way.
    I guess I quite like my hair, my finger nails and my lips :)
    Strawberry Sundaes

  3. I love this. I absolutely love My Mad Fat Diary, it really struck a chord because that is exactly how I felt when I was at school. I've definitely grown up to hate myself less, but not necessarily love myself more haha!
    I love the Barbie picture as well. Mine would have to be my eyelashes, my eyebrows and my nails.
    Touchscreens & Beautyqueens

  4. This is such a lovely post :) I wasn't feeling myself today but reading this has really perked me up and made me smile! I think the three things I'd say I like about myself are my teeth, eyes and my dimples! x

  5. I cried at this post, is that pathetic?
    I can't think of three things right now, like I physically can't but I will, I will.


  6. Such a lovely, positive post! You are very mature for your years! Ok 3 things:
    1. I am possibly the funniest person in my office
    2. I have lovely hair like a unicorns' mane
    3. I have the face of an angel .. or so I have been told. lol

  7. Awwwwww this post is perfect! I'm takingnup the 3 things challenge!
    1. My bum
    2. My stomach
    3. The colour of my hair

    I feel better already!

  8. What a lovely post! I love this, we're all way too into our image!

    The three things I like about myself are:
    1. My skin - yes it's Casper like but I don't suffer from blemishes or spots, I like being an English Rose
    2. My hair
    3. My finger nails

    Jegz xo http://jegz-loves-tea.blogspot.co.uk/