What Defines Success?

Something has been on my mind recently and I thought maybe it would be a good idea to get it off my chest. What defines success? I don't like the fact that sometimes you can be told you HAVE to do something, you HAVE to be this ambitious career person, you HAVE to be a super mum, you HAVE to dress smart and you must aim to be successful. I'm not saying that everybody thinks like that, because I think the exact opposite. I was talking to my dad the other day, who I don't see that often and he told me he was so proud of my sister and I and anything we chose to do in life he would support. I know my mum and stepfather feels the same way so I'm very lucky to have them.
Happiness to me is the most important thing in life. It doesn't matter to me what you do in life as long as you don't hurt anybody, you're safe and you're happy. We only get to live this life just once and you should never do something because you think that's what others want you to. Say for example, you go through school listening about how you must pass your GCSE's (agreed) and then it's advised you get your A levels, go to university and you will be successful. But what about those who don't like to study - like me?! Please, please don't take this the wrong way if you wanted to get your A levels and then study at university, that's more than OK and I don't mean to bash that at all. At 16, I left school with no idea where to go, what I wanted to be in life and guess what - I still don't know where I'm going, but that doesn't mean I'm not successful. I've held down a full time job and I pay my way in life. I think what I am trying to say is that it doesn't matter what your aim in life is, as long as you're doing something and you're smiling - you're successful.
Some people think you're only successful at a career if you're a high flying business woman earning over 50k a year and you've spent ten years studying in your bedroom. I, however, define ANY career as a successful one. If you can turn up to work on time, roll out of bed on a cold dark morning, greet customers with a smile when your mind is whispering profanities about them and you still smile. What I'm trying to say and I have no idea whether I'm making any sense or not - is that it doesn't matter if you don't earn as much as the women you read about in magazines, or whether you earn more - whatever job you choose to do, it means you're successful. Never feel like you have to become someone you don't want to be just because your Granddad wants you to be a doctor or your mum's next door neighbour thinks you should have studied harder.
I actually had an idea of defining success as a blogger for a post recently but I gathered it would fit in well here. The blogging world is frickin' massive and we can sometimes feel we're swimming around like tiny goldfish in the ocean whilst the Rainbow Fish (remember that book?!) are at the top of the ocean, swimming in their success. It's easy to feel envious of them and wish that you were at that level, but don't forget we all started at different times. If you plucked up the courage to start a blog, you update it and you enjoy it - you're a successful blogger. It doesn't matter if you've got under 50 followers or over 5000, as long as blogging makes you happy - you're a successful blogger.
I hope I've managed to make some sort of sense to you in this post! I didn't really know where I was going with it, but I'll be interested in hearing what you think and what you think about what makes YOU successful? Do you ever wonder that you should have done things differently to impress others or make others happy?
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  1. This is such a lovely post! I particularly like the careers part and agree that having a job and doing it to the best of your abilities makes you a success!


  2. Love this post so much, I agree with every word! Especially the blogging bit, I think sometimes a lot of people get hung up on numbers and it gets them down but I would think that just making a blog and keeping it up is successful!


  3. Success is a strange thing. I think everyone has their own ideas and as we get older our ideas for success change. For me, it was always so much easier when I was younger to feel successful, now that I'm an adult, have a job and such, success doesn't come that often. I think then, we really start to understand that success isn't everything and starts to mean something completely different. When we are younger I think it's more things, tasks and such, the older we get the more it's about a happy life and such.

    ~ K

  4. I really enjoyed reading this post, and I love the Coco Chanel quote. 'As long as you're doing something and you're smiling - you're successful' is also a great viewpoint to have. I think as I'm getting older I'm learning to care less about other people's definition of success, and more about being happy with myself and what I'm doing xx


  5. This post is absolutely amazing! It's so important to look at success in this way. I am not going to lie I sometimes let things get me down by comparing myself to others and worrying that I haven't reached points of success like they have but I just remember everyone's lives are different. As long as you are happy that is all that matters!

    Collette xxxx

  6. I LOVE this post and it's so refreshing to see a blog like this - as long as you're happy doing what you love then that's all that matters!!!

    Was so lovely to chat to you on twitter today - hope we can stay in touch! :)

    Layla xx


  7. I've recently just left university after my second year because I hated it. My parents were so supportive but some people have told me it's a 'waste' to throw away my education because now I 'won't get a good job'. Honestly, I'd rather be happy than have to put myself through another year of uni!

    Sophie x | sophhskii.co.uk

  8. Success is such an interesting idea because everyone defines it so differently. I agree that you should do what makes you having, even if it takes a little longer to get to where you want to be.


  9. I think being a happy blogger means a successful blogger to me :)